Feb. 24, 2026

Episode 73: Your Spouse Could Be Your Secret Weapon for Smarter Decisions

Episode 73: Your Spouse Could Be Your Secret Weapon for Smarter Decisions
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Season 3

Most millionaires are married, and it’s not a coincidence. 

We break down how a strong partnership helps you make smarter decisions, protect your time, and avoid bad deals before they hit your calendar.

We talk complementary strengths, where one handles spreadsheets, and the other reads people and opportunities, and how that combo turns small choices into big wins. Budgets become tools, feedback flows faster, and time suddenly feels like your most valuable asset.

If you want to blend love with logic and grow together, this episode gives practical ways to align, test, and protect your priorities. Subscribe, share, and leave a review with the first strategy you’ll try.

00:00 - Why Marriage Correlates With Wealth

00:16 - Trust, Perception, And Partnership Value

01:04 - Using Each Other’s Strengths

02:10 - Discernment And Reading People

03:26 - Time As The Ultimate Asset

04:34 - Faster Growth Through Honest Feedback

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I saw a stat that said eighty percent of millionaires are married.

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Sure.

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And I was like, that makes sense.

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It makes a lot of sense.

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But why does that make sense to you?

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Uh on many levels.

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Well, first and foremost, it's a uh trust factor.

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That's true.

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So outside people then trust you because you have a wife, potentially a family.

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Uh, there is also the fact that uh again, specifically, we're talking about heterosexual relationships that what wives bring to the table for men specifically, not saying that men are the ones that are the millionaires, but this is just based off of the research that I've seen, is the the addition of having the woman's viewpoint, yes, uh, point of view, but then also we're we're wired differently.

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We're wired in the sense of multitasking, knowing and understanding details, right?

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What's gonna come next, where uh that can be a great addition to uh anybody that's really gonna be out there making that money.

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Yeah, well, you've been a great addition to me.

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And I think about that as just how much I've learned from the beginning, being like, no, I got it, all my finances, I got everything on lock.

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I just need to make more.

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It's like, no, no, no.

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No, no, no.

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You can't just make more.

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You need to really lock in on the details, on the numbers, on the spreadsheets.

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And those aren't things that are like my skill set per se.

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Like, I don't want to be in Excel breaking it all down, but that's a strength that you have.

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And so I just think there's a lot of husbands or even someone that's getting into a relationship right now that's trying to figure out how do I get to nine years or how do I mesh with my partner?

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And a lot of it is to making sure that you're utilizing your partner's strengths.

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Right.

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Because so many people are not like what do they say?

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You're underutilized or you're underestimating your partner.

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And there's so many moments when you've been legit, the secret weapon.

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Your wife is your secret weapon, or your husband could be your secret weapon, because there's been times where I'm so in it with the business opportunity or the move or the job or the whatever, and you're like, literally, like you're you're sifting through like the clouds, you know, the clever words people are saying.

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You're like, no, that's not it.

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No, that's not it.

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Or that's or that is it.

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Yes.

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And to your point about strengths, right?

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Something I think that you were alluding to is also my we both have great discernment, but I also, over the years, have had discernment on.

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I will tell you is within probably 10 seconds of you introducing me to somebody or us being, you know, in a networking opportunity and we meet somebody, um, oh no, no, no, they're not the ones.

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I got I got the vibe.

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The the Holy Spirit was talking to me and said, That's a no-go.

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That's that's you're like, what do you mean?

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No, they they said all the right things.

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Me and him got lunch on Thursday.

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And I'm telling you, cancel the lunch.

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That's not it.

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We're not moving forward.

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Cancel the lunch, right?

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But same with you, right?

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When you when you talk about utilizing the strengths, yeah, is also knowing and understanding for you specifically your day-to-day.

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So if there's a task that needs to get done that day and focus, that's what you can do.

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But also, we've taken multiple tests over the years to show us who we are when it comes to yes, personality traits, but also how we work.

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So I also know for you that when it comes to the day-to-day tasks, you you know, two of your top five strengths, which we actually share, are focus and relatability.

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So I think that's something that we also see too.

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And achiever, I think, was another one for you, I believe, right?

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Absolutely.

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Achiever too.

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So I know whatever task you're gonna get that day, not only are you gonna do it, but you're gonna do it with excellence.

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So it's again, to your point, knowing and understanding what are the strengths of your partner, but then also what are the areas of opportunity?

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Because there may be some areas where it's like, hey, over time, now that we're nine years in, there have been some areas where before, when we first were married at 25 and 26, now that we're 34 and 35, we're just a whole ver new version of ourselves.

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And so with that comes more wisdom, comes more also, uh, I think something too that you've learned over the years is uh how to uh interact with people that say get off your chest.

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What do you mean?

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Interact.

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You just you I've had to tell you over time, like, hey, that person doesn't deserve your time.

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Just period.

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You're like, I know everybody, I want to give my time to everybody.

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You can have time, you can have time.

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But knowing time is your greatest asset, I'm no, yeah, I don't want to say you're wasting your time, but you're kind of wasting your time on this, on this person or they're just not ready, right?

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It goes back to when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

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And so over time, I've had to tell you that I'm just like, hey, no, we're not, that's done for now.

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If they want to come back later and they're ready later, that's fine.

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But you don't have that time right now and they're not ready.

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So don't waste your time.

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Keep it pushing.

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Keep it pushing.

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No, but you're so right.

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And a lot of times I think that can be a sticking point for or a pain point in people's marriages and relationships because it's like my partner's giving me this great feedback, but it's uncomfortable because then you have to have a you have to make a critical decision or have a critical conversation.

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But also people like you're coming for me.

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Absolutely.

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Or come yeah, because it's like why you're saying you're saying I don't see it, or you're saying this person's been around and like I didn't see the flaws, or I've been glossing over.

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And this could be family, friends, it could be whatever.

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And sometimes it's getting that other set of eyes that's not in it and doesn't know them, and you're just calling out the blatant examples of like, hey, how did you feel about this?

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Yes, hey, did you notice this?

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Hey, maybe you should redirect that time towards these other things.

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And it was such a great call, and I think something that just here in the area of growth, because we're not perfect by any means.

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Oh no, we're always learning, growing, and evolving.

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But one thing that we've definitely done is the time that it would take for me to get where you're coming from, or like see it.

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Because there used to be a time where it's like, man, months could go by.

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Yes, where it's like you said it, but I'm like, all right, nah, nah, no way, not my man's, not my man's.

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And then another incident, another incident, another incident, and it's like three times.

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But it takes time, it takes time, but then once you acknowledge it, and now it's like so much faster because you'll call it out, I'll see it, or I it'll be a flag before I even get to an incident.

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And I just think those things make a lot of sense.

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But so many times, if you're not in tune and you're not locked in with your partner, it it some you know, worst case, you stop mentioning what you see.