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Have you and your spouse already abandoned your health and wellness goals?
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Seven days in, gym's already empty.
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Gym's already empty.
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We just talked about this earlier this week.
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We were in the gym, and typically around this time, you know, it's you'll see the drop-off a little bit, but there's still quite a few people coming through, and it's been crickets.
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I mean, the gym has been pretty bare.
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I mean, I fully prepared myself to have to wait for an elliptical, to have to wait until somebody finished using the bench press machine.
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Yes.
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No, no one nearby.
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And not many people like, you know, peeking in either.
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Like they walk past, like, I'm maybe gonna go to the gym today.
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Nah, not not quite interested.
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So I thought that was that was like kind of different than years past.
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I feel like it used to be a rush.
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Right.
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And then it'll be a big fall off.
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I feel like some people are like.
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And you know what?
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I told you this earlier, but I think that because there's so much happening in the world right now, plus inflation and social unrest, all of the things that are happening right now, I think people are just saying, listen, my health and wellness goal, maybe, maybe not.
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If I if I get to it, I get to it.
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If I don't, I don't.
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Where before in previous years, we were seeing people are making it a priority.
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No, I'm gonna do this.
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This is something I wrote down.
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Um, and so I think it's just really interesting in in this 2026 era that we're in.
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100%.
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And I think to your point, you know, I just saw like Yahoo! Finance had stats about how much more expensive produce is right now.
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They were saying like fresh meats and produce, even frozen fish, 7% increase year over year, 8%.
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Now I'm like, whoo.
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So I think also right now, I think a lot of people are like, can I even afford to live healthier?
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Or how do I approach this with my partner?
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And I think for us, it's we're no different, right?
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We're looking at the ways of like we can see it when we don't have food prepped.
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I mean, this past week was a perfect example.
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Coming off of travel, didn't have food prepped, and it's so easy when you're just like, after a long day, just order something.
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It's at your fingertips.
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Let me just order it.
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Uber eats Uber Eats.
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Let's get it dropped off, right?
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Yeah.
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Which this is not sponsored.
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But you know, just you get it dropped off.
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But then now you're looking at all the options and it doesn't always register of like what's the best thing for me.
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It's what do I have a taste for?
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Right.
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Well, because if you think about it, probably by the time, and we're talking about for us specifically when when we ordered food, it was end of the night.
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We were exhausted from the day, didn't want to prep anything or even put condiments into a little ramekin?
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It was because you get that exhausted throughout the week.
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And so then you start making bad decisions.
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Where to your point, I'm going for satiation.
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What tastes good?
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What what does my what does my body want right now?
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Chicken fingers, chicken dinners and french fries, cookies.
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So, well, it's interesting you say that.
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So let's go into this first question.
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Should couples prioritize health even when life gets busy, or is that unrealistic?
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So I think it's absolutely you have to prioritize your health because if you don't prioritize your health, your health will make you prioritize an idea of people getting sick, people having you know different things happen that are like super drastic, right?
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Even even for me.
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I mean, I used to remember, and this is just being super vulnerable here, but I remember the mindset of like grind, stay up, put in the work, you don't need to sleep.
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And I literally remember getting into a car accident, falling asleep at the wheel.
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Yes.
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Because I'm like, no, I can make it home.
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Like, no, I'm good, I'm good, and legit fell asleep, right?
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Like at the wheel.
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So those types of things, it you it's better to acknowledge that you're tired, acknowledge that you're fatigued, acknowledge that you need rest.
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And then if you can do it with your partner, because I'm gonna be honest, I mean, you know, you help me out big time.
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And this is like I I I love that we can share and be vulnerable in this space, but I realize I have to get into the bed earlier to get my sleep and rest.
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In the bed, not on the couch, not on the couch, in the bed, and D will and what is just happening this week.
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Because you know, I wrote it down in my journal, you know, health and wellness, you know, you know, use the accountability of having my two can do it partner, which I appreciate you, but it sounds good to say you want accountability until the accountability knocks and says, No, you're not watching this, you're not watching the Sunday night game or the Monday night game.
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The game is watching you.
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You need to go back to the room.
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And I visibly don't know what's going on.
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I I can't even tell you who's winning right now.
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I'm disoriented, one eye is open.
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Well, I'll be like, my glasses are falling.
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I woke you up.
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I woke you up, and you looked at me.
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I said, It's time for you to go back to the bed.
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You said, I'm watching the game.
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The game's on, I'm watching it.
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I said, You're watching the back of your eyelids.
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I'm watching, and that's what you're doing.
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And all I remember that next morning was me being upset.
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I felt like a Oh my gosh, it was like a little child having a tantrum.
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He said, No, I'm not going back.
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I said, Listen, you're gonna feel so much better because she's guiding me back.
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And he just like like a child, he's throwing things across the room, he's he's vigorously unplugging things.
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I said, Okay, sir.
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So just just to my credit, I'm gonna need you to calm it down.
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Because it it does sound extreme when people say unplugging things, but I I do just have to reference little things that you can do.
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That's the humidifier.
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If I leave it on, it will beep in the middle of the night.
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So I do have to unplug the humidifier.
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But you're not wrong.
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I did not want to wrap up the game and go to sleep.
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But I just think, you know, to your question of creating healthy habits or is it realistic to do it, it is.
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And really, you're much better off doing it with your partner.
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And we call it two can do it, but you know, it's I would have been out there all night.
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Like if it was just me, I'd have been out there all night.
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Woke up after the game ended, I would have watched the highlights.
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Right.
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Versus getting my sleep.
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And I will say I appreciate the fact that you know, we both we invested and made a you know an example of making health a priority for us, it can look like different things, right?
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So, one example, we both got aura rings, and that's really been a game changer for us because you know, we got it on right now, but it indicating what where are our stress signals, where are different things you know, straining our body, what's our sleep score?
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I mean, the fact that we I was on a call yesterday with some other you know partners that are in health and wellness, and everybody was like, My sleep score this week has been un basically no crown, unsatisfactory, unsatisfactory.
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So everybody's like, I mean, you know, we talked about on the way here.
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Hey, I'm I'm in about two and a half hours of sleep debt.
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Yes.
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I was like, ooh, but we don't think about that from a health and wellness right, right?
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You think about like debt debt, but not like sleep debt.
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Right.
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But when we talk about what are some of the statistics around sleep if you don't get sleep and rest on like it can take years off your life.
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Yes.
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So well, so three things.
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So number one, talking about your accident when you were sleepy, 20% of accidents that happen specifically in the morning time are because people are tired.
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That was number one.
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Number two was when it comes to sleep debt, it takes, if you don't get, if you don't make up that sleep debt, then it will take two weeks for your body to catch up to you and it wrecks havoc on your overall health.
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The third stat was when you sleep, it was six hours or less per night, right?
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Because we hear that all the time.
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The amount of busy, we're busy professionals.
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I can't sleep that much.
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I'm the grind, right?
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In the six hours.
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Well, okay, sure, you may be exhausted now.
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And as I just mentioned with your sleep debt, but your overall health, it will take up to 10 years off of your life by not getting your sleep and rest.
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Because what happens when you're sleep and resting, right?
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So, number one, you are cleaning the toxins from your brain.
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So that brain fog that you can get throughout the day, which water also helps with that too, to be able to get those toxins out.
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But then also when sleep is for repairing and recovering.
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Yeah.
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We can even say restoring as well.
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That's what sleep is for, specifically when you get into your deep sleep, which that's why we love the aura ring because it will tell you when you get into your deep sleep.
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When you're in your REM, that's your resting eye movement.
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That's when you start seeing, uh, that's when your memories start getting solidified.
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That's when, you know, you might have a little bit more of a vivid dream and you remember it the next morning.
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That's typically in your REM sleep.
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So sleep is so important on so many levels.
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But specifically though, when it comes to your stress, that's what I personally love about the aura ring is that we're able to see how stressed we are throughout the day.
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And it's fantastic because we see the peaks and then we can go and see the time frame at which that peak was.
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And it's, ooh, okay.
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So transitions.
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For you, it was transitions, going from maybe the gym to a next meeting, going from a shower to a next meeting, something like that, right?
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That was where you were stressed.
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And for me, I noticed that my stress actually happens later in the evening.
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And that's because for me, I'm thinking about okay, next day, what do we have to do?
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I'm looking at the calendar.
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Uh, is there anything I can get done now?
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But it's it's 10 PM.
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We need to shut, we need to shut that down.
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So going back to the question, should couples prioritize health even when life gets busy?
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Absolutely, like we said, but there are habits that need to be built before you get busy.
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Because as we know, when we're on the road, we do it, we've been getting better at sticking to our program of making sure as soon as we get in, you know, to whatever hotel, we get water, we're gonna get our snacks, we're gonna make sure that, you know, we have everything set up also in our space to be able to move throughout whether it's a conference or we're just, you know, it's a vacation, be able to move throughout the space, having our activity uh in the mornings or whenever we can throughout the, you know, the conference programs, we find time to make sure that we're getting into the gym.
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But it was those habits were built before we were busy.
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Because when you're busy, a lot of your habits go right out the window, wouldn't you say?
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Yeah.
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And I mean, you know, we talk about this saying all the time, but it doesn't get easier.
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We just have to get better.
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Get better.
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So, with that approach, there's more added onto your plate.
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Before it may have been just attending a conference.
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Now you're thinking about speaking, or you're thinking about planning, and now your team is at the conference.
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And so when you add in these elements, it's more things that can be stressful.
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So, how do you prepare?
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And if you're not as worried about your health and wellness, or even just the basics of do we have water?
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I mean, even just us, right?
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Like we always want to practice what we preach, but in real time, like we have water on the set, right?
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Because we see how important it is.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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So, do I think it's unrealistic for couples to prioritize their health when they're busy?
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No, but it is preparation.
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There are things that need to be done beforehand because again, we all know when we get busy, a lot of things just go right out the window.
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And it requires you to be super intentional.
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And I think I think the habits that we found, because I think right now I know there's people listening that are thinking of how do I continue to build on the habits?
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What are some of the tools that you can use?
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And I know one of the things for us, just being busy, busy professionals, like we love being able to do the, you know, having Walmart delivery, yeah, for example, right?
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Because it's one thing that we found is that if you'll end up spending much more money doing individual takeout orders, yeah, you want something gluten-free, I want something over here, we got a taste for different things.
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You spend a hundred dollars and you're like, man, that was like two meals, yes, versus spending a hundred dollars and getting chicken, right?
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And you're getting milk and bread.
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Enough for some prepping for a few days.
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And then being able to take that time because what we also see is we've created the habits where we have our routine.
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Like Tuesday is a meal prep day, right?
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Or like the house day where we're getting organized, we're cleaning up, we're making sure that we're prepped.
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I love the fact that we, you know, starting the week on Sundays, and again, just thinking of like our framework of routine.
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Sunday's a day where yes, we're getting prepped for the week, but what does that look like?
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We're journaling.
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What are the things that we have on the calendar, writing it in, right?
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But then also prepping our clothes.
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I love that we brought that to the table.
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And really, it was um, was it David Beckham?
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That we saw that so David Beckham watching the Netflix documentary, and he was showing that he basically he hangs up all of his clothes for the entire week by outfit.
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Yes, uh, basically up front in advance.
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And it's like that makes so much sense.
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It makes so much sense.
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You're taking right.
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And if you think about uh Mark Zuckerberg, uh Bill Gates, a few of the other not only high achieving, but people that are making significant moves, uh, it's very simplistic on the outfit.
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Because again, right when you are a high achiever or you're in a position where you have to make a lot of decisions, there's decision-making fatigue.
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And, you know, we felt that we know what that feels like.
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But if you are on Sunday, you know, you're typically not having any meetings.
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As we always say, it's it's the Lord's Day, it's the rest day.
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We in football.
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But we get ourselves ready for the week.
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So to your point, right, all of our workout clothes are set for the week.
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We have our clothes that we're gonna be wearing for whether it's meetings or coming on the pod, whatever, that's gonna be set for the week.
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We have our gym bags at the front door.
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We are writing out what's happening for that entire week.
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We then are going through, hey, you know, you're gonna need the car for this day.
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I'm gonna be in the office this day.
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We start then right going through our calendar, figuring out how that works, but then making sure that on Sunday or whatever day, like we have some basic meal prep.
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We do we do a great job on the snacks, but basic meal prep, which I really like to just have a carb, so some sort of you know, rice, quinoa, legumes, something of that nature, protein, and a vegetable.
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Typically chicken.
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Yeah, and and and a vegetable, just to make sure that we can have something to get us through to that Tuesday where we typically do that prep.
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And juicing as well, which we love juicing.
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Love the juicing, and there's nothing Sara Tanama on the juicing, game changer.
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Just drop it in and almost like set it and forget it.
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Yeah, but having that routine where, like you said, the juicing, the prep, because there's nothing worse than like you're already hungry, you're already past the stage of like I need to eat.
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Yes, and then you're trying to figure out what the hangry hits too.
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Come on, and it hits all of us, it does all ages, it doesn't matter who you are, no one's exempt from getting hangry.
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Um, but yeah, I just really appreciate those foundational pieces because it can be done.
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It's not that it's easy, it's just intentional.
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Yes.
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Is consistency more important than intensity when it comes to couple health?
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Yes, I would say 100%.
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I think so often, I think a great example of it, and you see it a lot where you know intensity is like, man, we gotta go full.
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It reminds you of the people that knew year knew me, and like they start off hot.
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They're they put three hours in the gym on January 1st, three hours on January 2nd.
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You haven't seen them since.
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Right.
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Versus they put in 30 minutes every day throughout the week, or you know, they have a set routine of three to four days a week, whatever that may look like.
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I think it's just so much more um longevity.
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There's such a bigger opportunity to stick with it, especially as a couple or as a partner, uh, to do it together.
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Yeah, I I completely agree.
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And when we think of consistency, this goes back to the first question where if you're already consistent with your habits and even microhabits, then when you get busy, you are you're not gonna become necessarily inconsistent.
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It's just gonna be something that's gonna have to shift.
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And that's what we notice as we've been traveling more, is it's just a slight shift because you're not in your routine of being in your house, going to your tip your typical gym, right?
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Those things.
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But I go to the gym, I know that I will um, for us, right, having water, having the snacks, having those things already in the hotel room are is an absolute game changer because you're running in between, you know, meetings or if it's a conference, there's and we all, if you've been to a conference, you know the food is not that great.
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It's usually cold, it's not that good.
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And so if you can then, you know, substitute by having foods that you enjoy, then you're not gonna be as inclined to potentially go and get this, go the satiation route, right?
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Where I'm looking for something that's just delicious.
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And I'm glad you said that too, because you know, we we spent a lot of time and it's been a blessing, but doing a lot of speaking engagements, doing a lot of travel and things for work.
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And so for people that are traveling, going into the office, whatever that might look like, um, you just made a great call out about having a water.
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And even if that's something that you get delivered.
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I mean, I was just in LA at a conference, right?
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It's downtown, it's in the at the convention center, there's thousands of people.
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You feel like you don't have time because you're on the go to stop and eat, but getting a couple of protein bars, getting things delivered.
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Like, and yes, when we say water, because people sometimes will think, like, oh, that's like super basic.
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It's just getting water.
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But it's not just getting like because when I checked into the hotel, they gave me the complimentary like six-ounce bottle.
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Yeah, you know, so the little tiny ones.
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I was like, oh, can I get eight ounces?
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I was like, can I get a couple more of those?
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But I get up to the room and I realize those eight-ounce bottles are gone.
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They're gone.
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Then I like I got a water, I bought a bottle of water at the convention center.
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It's like eight bucks for a 12-ounce.
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Right.
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I said, you know what?
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Let me just order from I literally ordered from 7-Eleven, got a gallon jug, and got a few 32-ounce taller bottles because I was able to refill the gallon into the 32s.
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But what was crazy, I brought that gallon jug back to the booth.
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I will say, uh, love, love, love my brother-in-law, but no direct mouth on the gallon jug there, drinking it out the bottle.
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So we poured it, we poured it out of the, you know, out of the bottle, but I saw other team members refilling their waters with that gallon jug.
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So it was like, oh my gosh, Kurt, thank you so much for getting water because like everybody's at the booth, you're talking, you're thirsty, you've been walking, but it's so easy to overlook that, right?
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And then for a lot of people too, if you're at a work event, it's easy to slip in the drinks, the wine, the going out, and you're like, I had no water today, and I'm super dehydrated.
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Dehydrated.
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And as we know, just with dehydration, when it when you talk about performance, because when you're at a conference and even if you are attending or if you are presenting, you still have to be, as we say, you're on, right?
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So you have to then you're talking to people, people are asking you questions, there's decision making involved.
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So when you don't have water, your performance will decline.
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And then you again, when we talk about the how your body feels itself, when we have water, because you know, over 70% of our vital organs are made up of water, now we're replenishing and we're seeing that okay, that water is now going through my stomach and my intestines.
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It goes to my kidneys, it's going up to my brain.
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There's a lot of research around the within seconds, what just drinking some water will do for your brain specifically, and being able to have that flow and the function of your brain, that's huge when you're at a conference because you're going sometimes for 12 hours.
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If you think about it, it can be a very long day.
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And I wanted just to add on to that when you said how much when you're on the go and the impact of that, I think you know, absolutely it's it's having a water.
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But so many people think I've got to go get that coffee.
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Right, the coffee, the caffeine.
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That's what I need.
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Yes.
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And that's gonna wake me up.
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The base of the coffee is water, right?
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Right, which is gonna give you a jolt without the caffeine at all.
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But I I think I just always like to do a correlation, you know, for people, because when we are still high performing, right?
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Everything that we're doing.
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Doing, we're putting a lot on our minds, right?
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No matter what you're doing.
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But when we think about an athlete and you think about, you know, the Super Bowl or the championship, and you think about what happens when an athlete is dehydrated.
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Correct.
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Right?
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We've all seen an athlete go down, and people are like, oh my gosh, are they hurt?
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Like, how bad is it?
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And they get over to the sideline and the announcer's like, oh, they're cramping.
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Well, what does that mean?
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They're dehydrated, right?
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So they're out there and their muscles are dehydrated.
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You're trying to perform.
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And your body's literally seizing up to the point where you think that they're injured or hurt, and they just haven't had enough water.
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They're dehydrated.
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And so although we may not be running a, you know, a hundred yards or you know, shooting baskets, right?
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In the reality, us performing is still requiring a lot of exertion.
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Absolutely.
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Pushing out a lot of thought.
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Yes.
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You know, for the parents, right?
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Out there as well.
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Like you're working with you, you know, not only are you balancing kids and your I'm sorry, balancing work, but you also have the kids and all the other things that you have to think about.
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How many social security numbers you got to remember?
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I mean, my gosh.
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Absolutely.
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So is it better to work out together or separately, but with accountability?
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It's a great question.
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I would say meet you where you're at in your current journey and relationship.
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So I don't want to dodge the question directly, but I don't want to say that one thing is right for everybody.
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Like I think about us, we started off going like we would go, we didn't go to the gym together at first, right?
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We were at different gyms.
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You had your gym, I had mine.
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Then we got to the point where it's like it was a building block of like, okay, the good news is we're both going to a gym, even if it's not the same one.
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Then we're going into the same gym and doing different exercises, different machines.
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Like we go in different directions.
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Then we're at the same gym and we're like at the same cardio machine or at machines next to each other, talking and then training together, one up, one down, where we're actually working out different weights, but similar exercises or modifications.
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And it's like we're really in a routine together.
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So I think a lot of people just saw us like training together.
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And it's like, oh my gosh, day one, y'all were just like, Yeah, you know, you're you're you're spotting me, and we're just like lifting together.
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Like, no, it was a buildup over time.
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Well, it's interesting you say that because we posted on our Instagram, which if you're not following us, it's at Coupley Fit, C-O-U-P-L-E-Y-F-I-T.
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We posted about uh how to support your partner in the gym.
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And it was interesting because we had a few comments that came in and we mentioned, hey, do you like working out solo or working out with a partner?
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And multiple people said it's seasons.
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It depends.
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There are some times where I go by myself and I use that as my self-care, and it's just me and whatever I choose to do in the gym.
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But then another season I am working out with my partner, and it's really great to have that connection.
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So I thought that was an interesting way of doing it too, is whatever season that you're in is perfectly fine if you want to work out with your partner uh or if you want to work out with somebody else too, right?
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Group fitness.
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Group fitness is incredible.
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You know, I I love a Zumba class.
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I mean, I am here for a Zoom class.
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Zoomba's not my vibe.
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Not spin, not it for me.
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It looks great, love it, wish that could be me, but I know that's not it for me.
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So it's just again, figuring out not only who what you want and what you need, because sometimes, you know, you may have been around your spouse a lot during this, you know, week or whatever.
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And now it's, I want to actually go to the gym by myself.
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I'll see you when I get back.
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I'm gonna use this as a time to unwind.
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I'm gonna sit in the sauna for a little bit.
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Uh, so it depends.
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I think, but accountability though, I do believe, because that's our two-can-do-it philosophy is accountability, motivation, and connection is really important when you're talking about your health and wellness goals and prioritizing the long haul of your health and wellness because it's a long-term investment.
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Yes, you're gonna have those short-term benefits and those short-term bursts, but it really is a long-term investment.
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And when you have that accountability from your partner in a positive way, not negative reinforcement, but positive reinforcement, the stats just show that it's you see, not only does the connection increase, the intimacy increase, the emotional safety increases as well.
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Cause you're able, I've seen you strain yourself in the gym and it's it you look at your partner in a different light.
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So there's a lot of uh stats behind it when it comes to also the accountability and working out together.
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Do you think that's couples should eat the same way or respect individual needs?
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I think you gotta respect individual needs.
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And I'm gonna say this from the standpoint of uh gluten-free is not that delicious for me personally.
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And I know you have dietary restriction, but if I had to like eat gluten-free full time, because like I want, no, we're on the same, like you know, ah, that would be a hard sell for me.
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So I I just use that as an example of like different people have different needs as well.
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And I just think naturally um different taste buds too.
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So there's certain things that like, you know, I'm I can go down a whole rabbit hole right now of the different things that I like and dislike when it comes to food.
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No, like we're not a different thing.
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But I'm just saying that's an example of I have certain things that I like that are like staples.
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Yes.
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And I think you and your partner can have different approaches that can be a happy medium.
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Yes.
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Here's what I'll say knowing that 70% of women are cooking, number one, that means seven out of ten times whatever I'm cooking, it's gonna be for the family.
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Correct.
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Right?
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So I personally, I'm just thinking about for myself.
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When I already have to do gluten-free items for me, and then you want your own items.
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We don't have kids yet, but then they may want their own items.
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They get the hard pass on all of that.
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Everyone's gonna be eating the the same meal, maybe with some modifications.
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Wheat bread versus gluten-free bread.
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Vegetables that you can blend, and that's a part of like a marinara sauce.
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You'd be surprised how many kids don't truly recognize and realize as long as you add in some ingredients that they're familiar with.
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If you start adding in some of those fruits and vegetables and, you know, kind of doing it in a in a it also in a fun way, especially when it comes to kids.
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A lot of people are very aesthetic.
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We eat with our eyes first.
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And so when you see something that looks good, then you're more likely to take that first bite or to just maybe even try it.
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And that will ultimately start opening up your palate because you don't want to force yourself and your family into this is typically what we eat and only what we eat.
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Because then when you start trying to diversify, it gets really difficult for people to start eating outside of their comfort zone.
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Yeah, I mean, I I know food insecurity.
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Even as I think about myself, just as an example, um, I know I've expanded my palate a lot.
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You have since we tried different things.
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I mean boy, significant.
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Significant.
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But I I bring that up because I just I think it's such a great point of it's it is an evolution, it does take time.
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Um and and just you know, I really appreciate the the question that you asked because um it doesn't have to be exactly the same, it could be small modifications, but it is easier if everybody's on the same page.
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Meaning if everybody's going trying to go vegan, we're on a vegan program.
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For us, we like Mediterranean, and that's like a path that we typically do, whether it's you know, you have some like the gluten-free aspect, I may have something that's not, but it just it gives that balance or brown rice, like it can we both can have that, right?
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Which is a safe middle ground.
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Finding that common uh the common you know, food groups or foods that we can all have that makes it easier.
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So is your health routine building connection or creating pressure?
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Um I I I think that's I think a lot of the connection or pressure comes down to your approach.
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And so I think of ways, I'm just gonna kind of give an example of one way where I created pressure versus the opposite.
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So a way that I created pressure, like my clock of getting up really early, like I get up super early and I'm like, all right, I'm ready to go to the gym.
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But I also want to like wait for you to go to the gym.
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And I'm like, oh man, but like I'm at my peak energy right now at like 6 a.m.
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But that's super early.
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So like balancing that aspect out, but realizing that maybe it's a walk that we take midday or end of the day, and like that's perfect where we're doing that together and it's a great experience.
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So um, yeah, just making sure that it can draw the connection, i.e.
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the walk versus the pressure of one person has to be up at 6 a.m.
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for 6 a.m.
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sunrise yoga or whatever it may be.
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And it's like, yo, that's that's not my VOD.
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Interesting because I believe that you can indirectly put a lot of pressure, especially couples, on health and wellness goals if you're really if you're doing it together.
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Because, you know, some things that we've seen just having previous clients is there may be one spouse that is really excited.
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This is my year.
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I'm committed, right?
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And there's another spouse that is committed for maybe the first week or so, but like everyone else, they fall off.
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Back in the buffet line.
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Right.
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So then that's where the pressure can build, right?
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Where because one person is potentially pressuring the other to say, Hey, I'm doing this.
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You said you were gonna do this with me and you're not.
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But now, what can that look like where you're giving your partner that grace to where they may not be ready at this moment, but you are.
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And that's one thing we even when we had clients, we used to ask them, what is your readiness to change?
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Are you at, you know, a one where it's like, listen, I don't really want to make changes.
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Yeah, I know I should, but I don't, I'm not there yet.
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Or are you at a 10 where potentially you had a health scare or there was a rock bottom moment and you're like, hey, I need to make a change now, or I'm choosing myself in this moment.
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So I think that couples can create pressure um when they're getting healthy, but realizing that if the priority is to have connection and for us to feel better, then let's give maybe a partner some grace, but then also hold them accountable to your point, making it easy where, okay, what are you already doing that we can just do a little bit more of, right?
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Where, as we talk about with our Swan method that we created, sleep water activity nutrition, what is your partner already doing in one of those categories that are pivotal to our physical health, where I can help you and hold you accountable in those spaces?
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Because that's one thing I think is a misconception is what healthy may look like for me may not be the same for you.
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And that's okay.
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As long as we're prioritizing feeling better and prioritizing getting better, then that should be the focus and the connection piece rather than putting pressure on a spouse or putting a pressure on even right what we see on the scale, the number on the scale, that can put a lot of pressure uh on people as well.
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Something I'm leaving in last year is just the pressure that I would at times put onto myself that everything has to go like I've got to do that.
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Like, you know, I used to feel like I've got to be in the gym for an hour and a half.
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Right.
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Right?
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I've got to go through each of the steps of my workout and then do recovery and do and that's great.
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And that's in a perfect world.
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That's ideal.
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But every day is not gonna be ideal.
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And every day I may not have an hour and a half.
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So I used to get so like bummed and like put this pressure on myself that if I didn't finish the full workout, if I didn't get three to four full sets in, that like not it was a failure, but almost like, yeah, it wasn't good enough compared to man, you got active today, you got one percent at least one percent better today, like that's something that I need to rejoice in.
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And then if you have time to go back, like you could always circle back and go back to the gym later if you decide to.
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So just like I wanted to leave that behind.
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And as we go into and continue to progress into this year, just making those healthy habits.
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I like that.
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And it's interesting you say that because I've seen you over the past year, although you know, I've had to walk you through some of those days where you put that pressure on yourself and just say, the fact that you went to the gym and you had 20 minutes on the cardio, or you know, you were you got you walked to the gym.
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So that's giving you the fresh air, right?
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So I have to reframe it for you.
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And I think that a lot of times when it comes to health and wellness, we do need to do a reframe when we feel like we're putting too much pressure on ourselves.
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I would say one thing that I'm leaving in 2025 is the pressure to meal prep every week.
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Because I used to be very, I used to, you know, I used to be on it every single week on that Tuesday.
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We did just tell y'all every Tuesday.
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We but something's gonna typically get done.
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Which makes sense.
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So, but I'm saying the full meal prep where I'm doing the snacks, I'm doing the dinners, I'm uh, you know, potentially weighing out food, like the full shebang.
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It's a lot, it's a lot.
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We're too busy, and we realize that in 2025.
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And so for me, again, giving myself grace, hey, I can supplement with catering orders from our favorite Mediterranean place, or I can supplement with a meal delivery service where the foods are already prepped, or we used to love to do a Hello Fresh where the foods are coming and it's individual, but you have to make it yourself, which I still like that because I do like to cook, but realizing that I don't need to put that pressure on myself every single week to quote unquote be perfect in the meal space and make sure that we're all fed and you know, those things, it's just for where we currently are in the season that we are in, it's not realistic.
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So that's something I'm leaving in 2025 as we head into 2026 and we're getting even busier in 2026.
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It's okay to supplement and to get help from other restaurants that are already doing this.
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Yeah, I love that.
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Yeah.
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What's one thing that you're taking into 2026?
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One thing that I'm taking in to 2026 is more community.
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So I've got some really good, uh, you know, I built some really good friendships, I've got some awesome friends.
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Um, you know, and sometimes you're like, man, let's get a workout in together, man.
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Let's hey, let's jump out there and play pickleball or let's go hoop, right?
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And I I gotta be mindful of, you know, going out there and playing basketball.
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I know, that's right.
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But just finding those times and really more so making the time to, you know, really build that community because those are things that you really enjoy.
00:34:39.360 --> 00:34:51.599
I mean, I think back to some of my funnest moments, you know, playing football and doing those things was, you know, it's the locker room, it's hanging out, it's catching up with, you know, either your kind of that camaraderie of team, whether it's fraternity or friendship.
00:34:51.760 --> 00:34:54.880
So uh that's something that this year I want to do more of.
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And it can also be active.
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It doesn't always have to be like, oh, we're going and grabbing a beer, or like, oh, we're going and like getting a drink, or oh, we're hanging.
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Like, no, it could be, hey, man, we're getting a workout in, or we're catching up, and like those types of things are on my list.
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What about you?
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I love that.
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Uh, taking into 2026, I would say uh more grace on where I feel like I should be health and wellness-wise, and where I am health and wellness-wise.
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We've talked about even on our social media that one of our main goals for 2026 is we both have, yes, a certain weight that we want to get back to, but more importantly, was is the feeling that came with being uh back around the weight that we want to be at.
00:35:42.239 --> 00:35:58.800
And so uh I think that for me, 20 maybe 2025, 2024, actually really before that, for me, it really started in 2022 because that's when my grandmother unexpectedly passed, and then two years later, my last living grandparent passed.
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And so I didn't realize, I guess, that not only that grief, but you can gain weight in those seasons.
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It's comfort.
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Well comfort.
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I'm it's comfort, but then you also are just you're again because grieving's not linear, and so there's days that are better, there are days that are feeling a little more overwhelming, and so just giving myself grace that it's okay if my weight fluctuates, but I do know that for me personally in 2026, there is a goal weight that I want to get to.
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I love the feeling of when I am at that goal weight, and I feel like I have the most confidence in when I'm closer to that goal weight.
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And so just giving myself more grace when it comes to my health and wellness and not having to be, you know, striving for perfection when it comes to that.
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Love that.
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All right.
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So, last question what's harder starting healthy habits together or maintaining them long term?
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Ooh.
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I feel like those can be equally difficult.
00:36:59.360 --> 00:36:59.519
Right.
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Um I would probably say creating the healthy habits together.
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Okay.
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Um, because I think if once you create the healthy habits together, it'll help like you have you now are able to make things last long term.
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Because I think so many people want the like, how do I have longevity?
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How do I have but it comes from the habits, it comes from that foundation, and you know that you're so much better off doing it together.
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So to me, it's creating those healthy habits together, and that's gonna create that long-term and that long-lasting impact.
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But I like your thoughts as well.
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I am gonna differ.
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Go ahead.
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I believe maintaining long term is the hardest.
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Because, like I just mentioned, seasons, right?
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So you go through seasons where one year you're feeling incredible, the next year it's it's a pandemic, it's WTF, right?
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So gyms are closed.
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So I do think that it's actually health or it's easier to start healthy habits together because you're starting something and you're excited and you're ready, right?
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January, new year, new me.
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New workout should be.
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But then seven days in, the stats show 80% of people are typically falling off seven days in.
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So maintaining New Year's same me.
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Right.
00:38:11.599 --> 00:38:17.440
So maintaining those healthy habits, I believe, would be harder when we're talking long-term.
00:38:17.599 --> 00:38:24.079
Because again, going back to that first question of should couples prioritize health even when life gets busy, yeah, right.
00:38:24.400 --> 00:38:28.159
When life gets busy, that's typically when our healthy habits go to the wayside.
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Um, it's easier to start something, it's much harder to finish something.
00:38:32.079 --> 00:38:50.400
So if, but what we've realized just over the years is yes, you can have your seasons, but there should be your foundational healthy habits that no matter how busy you get, or no matter what season you're in, that you're constantly doing each one of these things.
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And for us, that's always gonna be Swan.
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We're gonna try to focus on our sleep and rest as much as we can.
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We're gonna be drinking as much water as we can.
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As we said, we're on set drinking water.
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We're getting active, whether that is a 10-minute walk or that's an hour and a half in the gym or whatever that's putting away your household items.
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Oh my gosh.00:39:08.000 --> 00:39:16.639
The the chores around the house, don't underestimate the activity that you get when you're, you know, doing laundry, folding laundry, you're you're sweeping, you're mopping.00:39:16.719 --> 00:39:17.519
Don't underestimate the activity.00:39:17.599 --> 00:39:18.880
And these are recurring, and these are recurring.00:39:19.119 --> 00:39:19.679
They're recurring.00:39:19.840 --> 00:39:21.519
You have to clean your house often, right?00:39:21.760 --> 00:39:27.840
And so that maintaining long term, in my opinion, is going to be the hardest.00:39:28.159 --> 00:39:35.519
And then let's also take into account maybe one of the one of the people in the relationship falls off.00:39:35.679 --> 00:39:39.440
And now where's your that might have been your slippery slope, right?00:39:39.519 --> 00:39:41.360
That might have been your accountability partner.00:39:41.519 --> 00:39:44.239
And now it's like, well, shoot, okay, well, I want to.00:39:44.559 --> 00:39:45.599
You get two large pizzas.00:39:45.760 --> 00:39:47.920
Yeah, I wanted to go for a walk, but now you know.00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:48.880
Supersize me.00:39:49.039 --> 00:39:51.039
Now you're you're you're super size me.00:39:51.199 --> 00:39:53.360
Now you're watching Netflix and this looks pretty intriguing.00:39:53.440 --> 00:39:54.400
Now I'm ready to chill.00:39:54.480 --> 00:39:58.000
And now all of a sudden my my workout shoes get kicked off and turn in the house shoes.00:39:59.199 --> 00:39:59.840
Turn in the house shoes.00:40:00.079 --> 00:40:02.079
The next thing you know, I'm in my pajamas sitting next to you.00:40:02.239 --> 00:40:07.519
So I would say that maintaining healthy habits long term is the hardest.00:40:07.760 --> 00:40:08.480
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