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What do you wish more people knew about confidence?
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I would say that confidence comes from within.
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Confidence does not come from attention from the outside.
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It really is that beaming light from the inside.
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However, confidence needs to be built when you're young.
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That's really what I feel like.
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I feel like the the sooner that you can build that confidence within your child, uh, that you're gonna see that they're gonna really become a different person as they grow.
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And they're you don't fall prey to, you know, as much maybe peer pressure or uh you just have a very good understanding of who you are and the confidence that comes with that.
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Uh, and it really does come from within.
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And I think also knowing yourself, like knowing your lineage is another one too of understanding, no, no, no, my great-great-grandfather, like my great grandparents did this.
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I I can't be any other way than excellent, you know.
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Just that's what I was thinking.
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Yeah, no, I I love that.
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And I also think I think confidence comes from also repetition.
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So if you're practicing things and habits that are gonna make you better, that make you improve, um, excellence then becomes standards, becomes a standard.
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It becomes no other option because you you created that flywheel effect, right?
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And that energy.
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And so, and also I feel like, you know, because you made a great point of knowing your history, but also if your history is not rooted in excellence or a rich, you know, background or you come from humble beginnings, that's okay, right?
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Like you can have the confidence that I'm literally building that foundation right now, but also speaking that life into yourself.
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Yeah, because sometimes if nobody else is, you get to look in the mirror and you know tell yourself you're a champion.
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Hey, I believe that we will win.
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Yes.
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How do you bounce back after slipping on your goals?
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I think the bounce back, a part of it is having the check-ins to not slip too far, right?
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Because like a part of it is just like at what point do you realize that you're slipping?
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Yes, is it six days, six months, or six years?
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Yes.
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How did I get here?
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So I think having the right people around you, right?
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Like the support, um, one thing that we do is just checking in and leaning on each other.
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I know there's a ton of times where you know I can go with the deep end.
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Six-piece Kaniac, let's go.
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And you're like, ooh, you have goals.
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And I'm like, you know what?
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Yes.
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Let's eat that salad.
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Yes.
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And those are, I would say that you're talking more health goals too, which that's right on point.
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But if we're talking life goals, if you notice that you're slipping on your goals, it's having an accountability partner, somebody that's going to text you and say, Hey, are we getting closer to having that business plan done?
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Right.
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Or being able to um build that empire that you want to build.
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The accountability partner, I think it's also in a sport support system, like multiple people that you can have around you that you know like and trust that will help you get to where you are, where you want to go.
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And then if you can get a mentor too, that's another great way to also not be able to slip too far from your goals.
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Um, but again, right, there's times where you have to either uh, you know, make a transition or slightly go off the path a little bit, just because life, life, life be life in.
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So, but being able to have maybe those three things will bring you back onto your destination.
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Yeah, one thing I want to add to that too, to your point is also writing them down.
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Like that's something that there's some really great data around when you write down your goals, you're more than like twice as likely to accomplish them.
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But if you write them down and put them somewhere that you can see them, even if you're off track or busy or you know, have other things going on, you're gonna look back on that mirror or on your desk or wherever you have, you know, on your vision board, and you're like, ooh, I really set out to accomplish that, and let's find my way back to that path.
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Yes.
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What's a sign you're emotionally burnt out?
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I feel like when I'm immersally burnt out, I start to get short.
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Like, you know, you just start to feel like it doesn't matter what's some, you know, what kind of what's going on, it's like you know, and I'm like, okay, I'm tired, you know, halt.
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Yeah, hungry, angry, lonely, or tired.
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Yes.
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I'm probably hungry.
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More than likely.
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I'm probably hungry or tired.
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That's true.
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Um, let's see, a sign you're that I'm emotionally burnt out would be probably just the feeling of when we've talked about a parasite before, right?
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A parasite is is somebody or something that can leech onto you and literally suck the life out of you.
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And I, to your point, right, it is that shortness, but it's the the the draining of the energy, the feeling of I just need a I need a break.
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I need a uh emotional and mental break.
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Man, yeah.
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That was the world.
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I mean, just to your point, I just wanted to double down and reiterate for whoever is feeling like that, it doesn't matter what their title is, if somebody's draining you, you need to move them away from you.
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That's right.
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Period.
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What's one thing you've learned about success?
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So much.
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I would if if I start, I would say that success is in the eye of the beholder.
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Just because success may look one way for me or you or us together, that may not be what success looks for somebody else.
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Like you just mentioned, right?
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Learning more about your history and your lineage.
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If you came from humble beginnings, you may be like, hey, I'm just trying to make six figures and be able to not worry about my bills, have a home, just have stability, right?
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Where again, that is success for somebody.
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And giving them that option and that grace to live in that, uh, I think again, and not judge people for where they are.
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You don't know what their what their goals are and what success is to them unless you ask.
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And then, you know, when you learn more, give them that applause.
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That's facts.
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I love that.
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Um, to me, so ask the question one more time.
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What's one thing you've learned about success?
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This is gonna sound a little bit cliche, but I heard a quote that I really love.
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Success is not owned, it's rented.
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And rent is due every day.
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It's every day.
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So that's what I've learned about success is that no matter how big the deal is, the opportunity, the award, the accolade, there's always tomorrow, there's always another level.
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Like when you think you've arrived, you lost sight of your destination.
