Episode 32: Kurt's Birthday Episode

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Hey, cupply Fit fam.

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Welcome back to another episode of the Cupply Fit podcast.

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This is a very special episode.

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This is Kurt's 35th birthday.

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Shout out to Taurus season.

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Happy birthday to you.

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Happy birthday to you.

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Happy birthday.

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That's all I got for you.

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Well, you can tell that was my choir skills.

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You see, I wasn't singing, that was lip singing.

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If you're watching us on YouTube.

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You saw his lip singing there and I decided to wear one of your favorite colors orange, I'm here for it.

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So you know it, this is all about you.

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This episode is about Kurt Mangum II.

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Don't forget the two, don't forget the two.

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I appreciate you.

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All right, let's jump on in.

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It is May 13th, let's dive in.

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And I haven't seen these questions either, so I'm you have not.

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I wrote these down yesterday and I'm pretty proud of them.

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So we're starting off with what's the most memorable birthday gift you've received starting off with what's the most memorable birthday gift you've received.

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Oh, that's a tough one.

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Most memorable birthday gift?

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I'm trying to think.

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Um, I had a really great birthday during the pandemic.

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You did an incredible job making my birthday special.

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I did go all out for that.

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I put a lot of time into that.

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I mean, I remember uh you were turning 30 top to bottom.

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My 30th birthday was probably one that was super memorable.

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Um, not just what was going on in the world, but she made it super special from like the balloons and the excited like the house was decorated.

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Uh, we went and did a bunch of different activities and fun stuff.

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So, yeah, that that one definitely jumps out as one of the most memorable.

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Oh my gosh, I think I made it Q-themed as well.

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Omega.

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Psi Phi themed.

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It was purple and gold everywhere Purple and gold everywhere.

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Okay, love that.

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What's?

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your favorite birthday tradition.

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Ooh, birthday, favorite birthday tradition.

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Two things.

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One is like a birthday dinner, so whether it's at home or out, but I do like the surf and surf, like most people do like steak, like surf and turf, like no surf and surf, like let me get like some salmon and a lobster, you know like that.

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And then the classic is like cookie, like most people do, like a birthday cake, but I'm not crazy about cakes, I just need one candle in the uh, the cookies.

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Well, what about a cookie cake Cause?

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I got that for you.

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I think for your that's true.

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It's so much.

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It was so much.

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Don't get me wrong.

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It's glorious, I'll eat it.

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But it's just like, because you're gluten free too, so it's not like we're going halfsies, it's like here's a whole cake for just you.

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So the one, the cookie dough, shout out to Chunk.

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Yeah, you love Chunk cookies, Even a dirty dough too.

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Or you know, I'm thinking about that Biscoff, this year, one candle, and we did that last year too.

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Just one candle and a Biscoff cookie.

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Okay, what's?

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your favorite.

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Well, what's your favorite birthday dessert?

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Cookie, please, Cookies, cookies cookies.

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Okay, what's your?

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favorite cookie, I would have to say the Chunk Cookie.

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Biscoff is my favorite.

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What about cookies and cream?

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You like an Oreo.

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I do like an Oreo, but not your favorite, the Biscoff or the classic chocolate chip.

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One of those two.

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That's right.

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I mean, you love it.

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You love it.

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Okay, what's one birthday wish that came true?

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This can be from childhood, adolescence.

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just last year, A birthday wish that came true.

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This is actually a great one, especially because we just wrapped up the NFL season and all of that.

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I had an idea of what I wanted life to be like and I thought that the NFL had to be the way that I got there.

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But through business, through all the things we've been doing, health and wellness, it was just basically to be able to be in my passion and do what I love and enjoy it and really do the things that we're doing right now.

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It's just I thought football had to be the vehicle, right.

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I'll have to say that's a dream, just like, literally, the life that we live, which is a huge blessing.

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Okay, amen, god is good.

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All, all the time.

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Okay, what's your favorite birthday memory from childhood?

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Favorite birthday memory from childhood.

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So as a kid I've always been a big sneaker lover.

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I was about to say when are we bringing the sneakers?

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In I thought you were going to say that for the most memorable birthday gift.

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Yeah, I just couldn't remember the year, the sneaker and all of that.

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But the birthday gift I used to always get like typically one pair of Air Jordans, either for my birthday or for Christmas, and I would have that one pair for the whole year.

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It would be my basketball shoes.

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All the real hoopers out there know that your basketball shoes you do not wear outside the gym, so it would be gym only shoes you do not wear outside the gym, so it'd be gym only.

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But then that year that I, or that birthday that I would get the new pair of jordans, my old basketball shoes became my shoes I wear every day and right that I would say that was always something I would look forward to.

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Was that one pair of jordans?

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now, who got that for you?

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well, it started with my grandma.

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It did my grandma shout out to my grandma ruby love granny, um she granny.

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You just talked to her about this not too long ago.

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It is funny because my dad was like why are you buying these expensive shoes?

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He don't need these shoes.

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And grandma's like, no, let me get my baby's first pair of Air Jordans and I got the picture of my granddad holding me.

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I got a little pair of Air Jordans on yes and you see it sticks.

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Yes, it sticks, yes, sneakerhead to this day.

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I love that.

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Okay, so if you could have any celebrity join your birthday party, who would it be?

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I feel like I know, but do they have to be alive or?

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can be anybody, anybody, anybody to select.

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If it needs to be alive to cut down on the anxiety, then we can do that if I have one person to celebrate my birthday with.

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Celebrity.

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One celebrity Neighborhood, nip Nipsey Hussle.

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Shout out to Nip.

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Neighborhood.

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Nip Marathon.

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I gotta have Marathon and that's the thing I don't even want to have him feel like he has to perform, like at the birthday.

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No, you're just there.

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Pull up, we can just play the music and vibe out.

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Rest in peace to Nip.

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I wonder if artists feel like that's odd to like listen to their music while they're there.

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I don't know.

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I don't think so.

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I feel like if it was me and I like we put this out like no, play it, Play it, Play it, Play it Play it again.

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Run it.

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Can I say it?

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Can I say it?

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I love that Neighborhood Nip.

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Shout out RIP.

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He's a real one.

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If you had unlimited resources for your birthday celebration, what would you have at your party?

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It's a party.

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It's a party, it's a party Unlimited resources.

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Unlimited.

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What would I have at my party Resources?

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What would I have at my party?

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That, what would I have at my party?

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That's such a great question.

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I feel like Just start naming things.

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The first one is I'm bringing in like family and friends, Like if you really got it oh like Adrian Peterson.

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Adrian, I'm flying them out and it sounds crazy.

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Oh my gosh, it sounds crazy, it's unlimited resources.

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I'm sure he thought he had unlimited resources.

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I'm sure he thought he had unlimited resources.

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He did and he went broke.

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So I'm like you know you don't want to be selling your jerseys and stuff because you had a big birthday party, but he literally flew everybody out.

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I think it was like first class, I think it was like 300 people.

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No, he had an entire plane.

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That's true.

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Like.

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Think of an entire American Southwest plane that's filled with your family and friends and you paid for all of them to come out.

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And that's what I was going to say.

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So it's not going to be 300 people, it's going to be like 10 to 15.

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So it's going to be more intimate, but like being able to cover so that people can come and experience the birthday.

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Got it Definitely got to have some incredible like epic entertainment.

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I think, almost like if I got unlimited resources, oh, I've got, just for my birthday.

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Okay, so who's is Nip performing at your concert?

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So Sade is one of the performers.

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Sade yes.

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Okay, you know sweetest taboo.

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Like I want vibes for the party because there's going to be different times.

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That might be a little bit more like late night.

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You see what I'm saying.

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You might be winding down.

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Also let people know get up out of here.

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Yes, you don't got to leave.

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But you got to get up out of here.

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But then also like so that.

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So we got artists, we got family there.

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I'm basically bringing an experience to the birthday.

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So I'm bringing like the maple and ash vibe with the food, the chef, I almost thought too Are we having like mermaids in the pool?

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No, no, no, no, no.

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We're courtside at a game as well.

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The game's coming to us.

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We got the NBA playing here at the party.

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They're playing a full game.

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I mean, right, it's the playoffs.

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So right now, if it's the playoffs, like I'm just you know if I'm thinking just outside of the box- yeah, what two teams do you want to see?

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And is it basketball football?

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Oh, that's a great question.

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If it's up to me, well, my birthday is during the NBA season, but if I could make it any time First off, you're saying like if I had the Lions come play for my birthday, of course that would be pretty epic.

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Who?

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are they playing?

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Right now we're playing the Bears Just because our offensive coordinator left for the Bears Instant Right now we're playing the Bears just because our offensive coordinator left for the Bears.

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Instant rivalry.

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Oh you're petty See.

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Petty patty is coming out and I feel like he made some bad calls during our playoff run.

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Oh my gosh, I feel like he was a little bit distracted.

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Yeah, you might have to add him on Twitter.

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We got the best running back in the league.

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Why are you throwing it on third and one?

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Why Fourth and one?

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Why Jared Goff fumbles?

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We're in trouble.

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House way.

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Okay, so it's giving it You're saying it's so overall unlimited resources you want to bring an experience Sporting event, catered food.

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Concert we got epic artists with concerts, and we flew people in Cookies.

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We flew people in A sneaker wall.

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Yeah.

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It's up, right Okay, and it might be somewhere like I don't even, and it might be in another country too.

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Amen to that.

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Yeah, dubai bling.

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I okay, you can't wait.

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See you put the pressure.

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Okay, If you could have any superpower until your next birthday, what would it be?

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I've said this one before, but without a doubt, heal.

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Definitely.

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So to be able to, I mean, and I may renew that.

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So, um, to be able to, I mean, and I may renew that, but to be able to just like, oh my gosh, and it's not so much for me to be able to like have the power to do it, but more so like there's so many people that you pass or that are struggling or they're like man.

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I just wish I could have this blessing to be able to just bless somebody that you meet and like.

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That would be incredible yeah, I mean, we just talked about that in the previous episode, about mental health and how many people, how many millions of people are struggling.

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So I love that and you said that since I think we were on the Finding Arizona podcast.

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Years.

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Shout out to Jose and Brittany Okay and so if you could create a new holiday in honor of your birthday, what would you call it Creating a holiday?

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Yeah, it's Kurt's day, kurt's day, yeah, k-day.

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K-Day, k-day, no May Day, we're out there.

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K-Day KD3 day come on.

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Yeah, that's it okay.

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Yeah, I'll take it easy.

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I'll take it.

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What three historical figures would you invite to your birthday and why they can be, you know, unalived or living.

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Three historical figures.

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Oh three Dr Martin Luther King Jr, malcolm X, marcus Garvey.

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Love it Okay.

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Nobody living.

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I'm yeah, nobody living.

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No, nobody living, yeah, nobody living.

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No, no, mostly You're going to have to sit down.

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Okay, yeah, okay, are they coming to your party?

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They're coming to the party and I'm not even saying anything.

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I just want to just listen.

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Yeah, be a fly on the wall, just listen amongst them.

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Maybe drink old-fashioned together.

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Maybe Listen okay, amen, yeah.

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If you created a time capsule to open on your next birthday, what three things would you put in it?

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Time capsule we're going to bury it.

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You pull it out your next birthday at 36.

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What three items are in it?

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Oh, my gosh Time capsule until my next birthday.

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That's a tough one.

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Three items.

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Am I putting it in the capsule?

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Because I can't.

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I need to like hang on to it.

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What give me a little bit more context typically a time capsule is right, like you are burying it, let's say now, and we don't open it until 30, 40 years later, right, and so you're seeing oh gosh, what did I put in there when I was 35 years old?

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However, this is a little spin on it and you're doing it next year, so I would really just probably write down my some of my goals, aspirations and like things that I want to accomplish so that a year from now I can look and see how far I came.

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You know did.

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I reach them, that type of thing.

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That's one thing.

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Oh that was I was going to be be.

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No goals, aspirations on the same paper that's on the same paper same paper okay, so that's in one um my journal, okay, journal another, like one of my journals, so I would have that like your.

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Maybe your vision board in there too.

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Vision board, like your vision board, if this is where it was that those will be the three, okay, vision board, journal and and then writing down my goals.

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No sneakers, no cookies.

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See if they make it Okay.

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I'll see those on my next birthday.

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Amen, amen.

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What is your favorite memory from your last birthday, so from your 34th birthday?

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What's your favorite memory?

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Bucking Rider.

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Bucking Rider I think we did go to Bucking Rider, we did.

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We sure did dinner.

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Uh, just good times, being able to take it all in.

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I mean, I remember just quality time and spending time together.

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That was like that was a huge blessing last birthday that was.

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You also had an opportunity with uh I used to say as well you.

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You got the confirmation which one oh yeah, yes, yeah, on something pretty big.

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It was some great news too, Some great news that came in.

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It was overall a celebration for sure, okay, love that.

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What is the best thing about being this age, let's call it?

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You're so close to 35, right, but what's the best thing about being in your, I guess?

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mid-30s.

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Yeah, so I feel like the best thing about being in your mid-30s.

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This is the first time me addressing mid-30s.

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I've never said that before I know it feels so.

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Thank you for that, uh, but I would say how one?

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You're not, you're, you're older, but you're not old and so and, and you can get older and not get stale.

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You're're not stale.

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So like this idea that as soon as you hit 30 or 35, like your legs don't work, you can't run anymore, Like I just need to go sit down somewhere.

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Like that's not the case and so many people told us that like hurry up and have kids, or you better do this now, before you get old, and I'm like it's a state of mind.

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I still I don't feel like I'm in my 20s, but I don't feel like I'm like old or like, oh, I'm unk now and I can't get out there.

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No, so I think it's a lot of it's like staying young in spirit.

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No, seriously, people like they put you in the category and all of a sudden you're just like you know first off, that's wild.

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I mean, what are?

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you talking about.

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Who are you talking about?

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I know.

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You know it's like me, so that would be if anything, it's a fun tea there we go, and that would be my thing is like not letting the age be a number, because you see people that are full of life.

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A perfect example of this is pete carroll, the nfl coach.

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Like he's like almost 80 years old, he's out there throwing passes.

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He's giving me like um he's.

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He's giving me like wedding crashers, like he's out, I'll put it anywhere he's got the gloves on sweatpants.

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He's giving me like wedding crashers, like he's, I'll put it anywhere.

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He's got the gloves on sweatpants, he's running, but like at 80, you would think there's no way he's doing that and he's still enjoying life.

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So I would say, having that mindset that you're not old, you're just getting better and I feel like that's really what thirties feel like is like you're getting better, you're more wise.

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Hopefully you got things more together financially as well than like when you're 20 and struggling.

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So it's like you're.

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I feel like it's an evolving of who you are and you're feeling more settled.

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You're not worried about what, like other people have to say, where they're like super impressionable and don't know who they are.

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But also you're not in a space where you have to be so set Like I'm this person I can't change or I can't have a new version or chapter of me too.

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So I feel like it's a really great space to also be in.

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It's a blessing.

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Yes, and now that you're talking about it and I'm going to be 35 this year too I'm just what are your?

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thoughts.

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What are we?

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How did we get here?

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This is my first thought, you know it's.

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I know how, because of the life experiences that we had.

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But it also feels like even when I was talking to my mom you know her birthday was in April and I asked her I said how do you feel having, you know, a 37 and a 34 year old?

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And she just said I can't, I can't, I can't believe it.

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I still remember when you guys were in diapers and I was pregnant with you and those things, and so it's just, it's interesting how life will make you reflect at certain ages and then also how you reflect during that time, and just really, I feel like we're also, um, we try to look at it from like a well-rounded aspect of how are we doing when our whole person, um, and so it's interesting to your point, I do feel like when we were younger, uh, like in our 20s, people were making it seem like when you hit your 30, hit a wall, it's over not only hit a wall, but you have to have your life figured out.

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You should be having kids.

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You should like this is the life that you should have and be living and it's like well, hold on, maybe that life doesn't fit where we are right now, like we can't, we can, you know, chew on the meat, spit out the bones, type of situation.

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Sure, okay, what is your favorite book that you're reading at the moment?

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Uh, five next moves patrick bet, david yes really good book um can you give me one tip from the book?

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one tip on from your five next moves is one knowing who you are.

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Amen, that's a perfect one.

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Going into 35 too, of like know who you are, because you can't think about move two, three, four or five until you know who you are and what moves you want to make.

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So, yeah, the book is spot on for business.

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It's about strategy, but it's a lot of things for life and just clarity that are really great there too.

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That also goes hand in hand with 40 laws of power as well, right, and then, when you know who you are, then you can really build your reputation, and your reputation you need to guard with your life.

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So that's a great book.

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You were just reading that when we were on vacay too, and you were so excited about it.

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The highlighter was getting serious work Okay what's your favorite movie at the moment?

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Favorite movie at the moment.

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Favorite movie at the moment.

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We've been watching a lot of series.

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We've been watching more series.

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Okay, so then let's not do at the moment what's your favorite movie?

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Oh boy, let's break it down by this, because you have so many.

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What's your favorite comedy?

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Life, eddie Murphy, martin Lawrence Period.

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Okay, easy.

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What's your favorite?

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what's your favorite comedy a life?

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Eddie, murphy, martin, lawrence period.

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Okay, easy what's your favorite action movie?

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Favorite action movie.

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I know gladiator, I knew it was gladiator.

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I was gonna say are you not entertained?

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Is?

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this not why you're here, and then, Exactly Okay.

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Comedy action drama.

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That's a good question.

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Drama, drama.

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I don't know.

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I'd have to think there's some things that are maybe coming to me.

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What's coming?

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to you.

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I'm trying to think of a drama.

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It's going to fall more into comedy.

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I feel like Okay.

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A drama.

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There's drama in comedy.

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Okay, I have to pass.

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I can't think of one.

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I can't think of one that jumps out to me.

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Now, do mob movies count as drama?

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Do you think?

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Because you have some that you like, like casino, he, you like casino.

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Those are great right um, but also I have, like you know, some favorite movies like wedding.

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Crashes is a favorite sandlot yes is a favorite, like movies that's a childhood favorite.

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You love sandlot and beethoven for sure, I'll watch them anytime your uncle told us about it anytime, he said katie, what do you want to watch?

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Repeat, repeat, repeat.

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Let's watch it again he said it used to get on his nerves.

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Yes, okay, I love that.

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Um, what is your favorite tv show at the moment?

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Favorite tv show at the moment I mean, we just watched the residentsidence on Netflix.

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We've been watching King of Queens.

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King of Queens is good.

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That's been good.

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King of Queens has been good, so that's definitely in there, but favorite show at the moment I'm going to have to hats off to Yellowstone.

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I was just going to say it's going to be Yellowstone.

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Made me want to get a pair of cowboy boots.

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Come on, yay.

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You know Black Rodeo here I come In an old time road we're going to ride.

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I love that.

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Yes, that part.

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Okay, love that.

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What was the best thing that happened to you this year?

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Best thing that happened to me this year.

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One of the things that come to my mind.

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There's a couple Like it's hard to just pin it down to just one.

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Us launching a podcast with video is definitely one, so that's a huge one.

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I had my first keynote recently, so my first keynote was huge.

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Being able to do that, have that experience like my first not first, but the international trip for us where we're really going, you know, not just Mexico, but getting a chance to really travel and experience in a couple of different countries that was eye opening and definitely a great experience.

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Agreed, agreed Travel.

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Highly recommend.

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Highly recommend.

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And then also just the travel bug.

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Right Like we were.

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We kept saying I mean, when you're sitting, when you're standing in front of a monument that you've only seen on TV, ie for us, which was the Eiffel Tower, it's like you want to touch it, like is it real?

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It's like is it real?

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And then we kept saying I can't believe this.

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And like are we here, are we seeing this?

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Um, absolutely incredible experience, truthfully.

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So I am with you on that.

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What is one goal or dream you have for?

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this upcoming year.

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A dream or goal for this upcoming year is.

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So I'll say one goal for this upcoming year is us getting another house.

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So, like you know, we're planning on buying another house, so that's on the list.

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Definitely being able to, you know, know, step back into that home ownership um side of things is a blessing, like the market is getting becoming a little bit more favorable.

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So, yes, that's a good sign too and then I just thought about the last house um that was purchased was for us was in 10 years ago.

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Crazy.

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Crazy.

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So just thinking like a decade later and being able to jump into the home that we want Crazy and enjoy it Okay, I love that.

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What accomplishments are you proud of from the past year?

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Accomplishments I'm proud of, I would say, living authentically and sharing more of my story.

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So I know I mentioned a podcast earlier, but one of the things that I said we said we were going to do, we talked about, was like hey, we need to use our voice more, we need to share more.

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There's so much that we've talked about or like ways we've helped people on the individual, but how do we share this out more to more people?

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So I feel like that's been one that's been a huge accomplishment is just using my voice and being able to be a blessing in that way.

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So that's definitely one accomplishment that comes to my mind.

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And then just you know, professionally, on the business side, continuing to bring creative ideas unlock different opportunities, open up different things on the partnership side, so that also has been like a huge blessing.

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I can, I add to your accomplishments.

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So an accomplishment that I've seen from you is you're coming into your own in a very different way, although it is your divine purpose and your divine path, and you can see it and feel it.

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I've said to you this many times over the past year or two.

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I'm just like, if you've grown so much, not only from the time that we have been together, which you know, that was 22, 23, from when we first met but then where you are now, you can just see like you're getting settled right, like you're really getting settled into yourself, settled into your voice, your story as well, and I think that has always been, um, an accomplishment that you were doing each year, right, like you're getting closer each year.

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But I really see it this year of, like, the settling of who you are, what you stand for, even the way that people respond to you as well.

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I think it's been a huge accomplishment too.

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Thank you, my love.

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I appreciate it.

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It's definitely felt like a new chapter, meaning a lot of ways, which is great.

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Yes, okay, so you've, you've, you're touching on a couple of these, but what was?

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What were some ways that you've grown over the past year?

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I would say growth is having more grace on myself.

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I mean I know we always talk about it being recovering perfectionist or working on that perfectionism.

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So even little things.

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Like you know, I can be so hard on myself of man.

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I got all of these emails I haven't gotten back to.

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I've got all these things on my to-do list, but simplifying it to like, hey, did you get these three most important things done today and then everything else can be scheduled for tomorrow.

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Or hey, I don't have to get back to every email right now.

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I got back to the most important ones.

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So just really that grace on myself because I was doing great work but I was putting so much pressure on myself because I was doing great work but I was putting so much pressure on myself to do more and like, what didn't you do?

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And shifting the mindset to like, look at all the things we did get accomplished.

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So that was one that was small, I know.

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Also, like, just on the health side, continuing to refine my healthy habits.

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I know I like to eat good, so balancing that out so that it's healthy eating habits and those things has made a difference too.

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So I would say those are two big ones.

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Yes, I absolutely agree.

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I think also too, just on the professional side.

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You've grown so much there as well, also to your point right where you're getting these incredible opportunities to keynote, to be on panels, to speak, to truly use your voice, which I believe that's why you know God has put us both on this divine path.

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But it's kind of crazy.

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You know you say using a voice and I think back to when I was in college.

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You know I had a coach when I was in college who used to basically make fun of me and almost mock me because he said oh, you got a radio voice, but in a negative way you need to.

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I want you to call and announce all of the plays every meeting during practice.

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So we're watching film and I had to call off the play before and it was like he was doing it as a penalty.

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But one, I learned the plays better.

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But two, it makes me think now, where we're doing podcasts, we're doing speaking engagements, being able to be asked to speak, and it's like something that somebody could be using as a negative or using as something to like kind of pick at you could actually be a part of your calling.

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Absolutely Right.

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And going back to people will mock what they don't understand, you know, even if it's just like I don't understand how you have this gift Right, and so I'm just going to mock you for it.

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So I'm sure he's, I'm sure he heard an episode.

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Yeah, probably.

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I don't think he's coaching.

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I think he's out of a job right now.

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Not that we want that for anybody, but sometimes you have been treating people right, Listen, listen.

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God is always watching.

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OK, what lessons?

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have you learned from the challenges of the past year and if you want to, maybe mention your challenges first and then the lessons that came from that.

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Yeah, so, as I think about challenges from the past year, one of the things that I would say is realizing that, even when you have a lot of great things happening, maybe it's professionally and in business that you also can have challenges and things that happen on a personal side.

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So I know, like this past year and a lot of times on social media, you see the wins, you see the travel, you see the exciting things, but you know we've had some pretty significant losses over the past year too.

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I know, you know, death in the family we had, you know, a couple of things that have happened, just situations where it made me really grateful.

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But also it was like this balance of oh my gosh, I'm, you know, started off the year January.

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I'm at Nasdaq, my pictures up, you know, in Times Square, incredible experience.

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But then I also found out my granddad had a stroke right.

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And so there's this balancing act of like I'm supposed to be super happy, this like high of high moments of having this experience, to then realizing, oh my gosh, this is really almost a sad moment, right, and I got to now head there and I'm worried about family.

00:28:47.835 --> 00:28:53.699
So it it's a reminder that life can change in an instant to, yes, not fly too high or too low, but to really stay grounded.

00:28:53.699 --> 00:29:10.348
Yes, not fly too high or too low, but to really stay grounded, which are all of the habits that we talk about right on a podcast of staying balanced, staying grounded, journaling, devotional, keeping that kind of that faith in that balance Because, man, you know, you can feel like you have your footing, everything's going amazing.

00:29:10.348 --> 00:29:13.592
You're like you get some news that will almost knock you off your feet in some way.

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Yeah, literally rock your world.

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Yeah, and if you know, that's kind of going to like the duality piece of just being human, right, if you are a professional and executive, you have this way of also operating and then you can get some news on the phone where you're just stepping out of a conference, you're stepping out of you know, a professional space and it's like, whoa, life just hit me where, oh my goodness, like you said, my grandfather just had a stroke, like, oh my gosh.

00:29:42.096 --> 00:29:48.382
Now that's, you know what you're thinking of when you're at this big moment and it can be difficult.

00:29:48.382 --> 00:29:54.567
So the lesson you learned was to just make sure that you appreciate life essentially.

00:29:54.567 --> 00:29:55.989
Yeah, absolutely.

00:29:55.989 --> 00:30:00.268
What is one thing you want to let go of this year?

00:30:00.268 --> 00:30:04.384
Hmm, and it's this upcoming year, like 35.

00:30:04.384 --> 00:30:05.479
What do you want to let go of?

00:30:06.501 --> 00:30:07.425
35.

00:30:07.425 --> 00:30:22.982
I would say one of the things that I want to let go of and this is a great question too, as I think about that, actually, as I think about so 35, something I want to let go of is any relationships that are not positively serving me.

00:30:22.982 --> 00:30:27.001
I feel like I've already done a really good job of that and being mindful of it.

00:30:27.001 --> 00:30:48.003
But sometimes, right, you can get caught up in that comfortability of like I know this person, I talk to them pretty often or we've been cool for this many, however long, but if it's not a healthy situation or a healthy friendship or those things just really realizing like hey, things can be for a season, or like creating some space in there, that's okay.

00:30:49.086 --> 00:30:51.807
Absolutely, and I think that's a message for quite a few people.

00:30:51.807 --> 00:31:00.867
To be honest, that might be in relationships or situations where I don't feel myself around this person.

00:31:00.867 --> 00:31:01.829
They're draining me.

00:31:02.015 --> 00:31:25.416
We've talked about being a parasite, pirate or a passion partner, and so you're saying that you're trying to move away from any parasites and pirates and get around more passion partners 100 and I think, to dive just another layer beyond, that is also when you're putting forth the effort, whether it's a familial relationship or a friendship, and you feel like, man, I'm putting forth more effort, but it's not being reciprocated.

00:31:25.978 --> 00:31:45.830
But then sometimes, because maybe you're younger or you know someone else is an elder, they feel like, oh, you need to be catering to them or you need to come to me, you need to be calling me and not putting that guilt onto yourself because, being old school family from the South, those types of things growing up in the Midwest, it's like, oh, how can I, what can I do more, how do I help?

00:31:45.830 --> 00:31:48.839
West, it's like, oh, you know, how can I, what can I do more?

00:31:48.839 --> 00:31:49.121
How do I help?

00:31:49.121 --> 00:32:04.923
But realizing it is a two-way streak, with friendships with family across the board, and not putting all of that weight onto yourself of, like well, man is, am I the reason that maybe this relationship isn't where I want it to be, or maybe it isn't what it used to be, and it's like, no, it's not just on you and being able to be at peace with that.

00:32:06.144 --> 00:32:31.722
Do you mind sharing the gem that we learned from somebody this past week oh man, oh my gosh About relationship, essentially relationships, really, although it was a mother daughter relationship, and this was a mother speaking to her daughter when she turned 18 and having a very real conversation, an emotionally intelligent conversation.

00:32:31.722 --> 00:32:36.144
Can you give just a little bit more insight on that gem that we received?

00:32:36.305 --> 00:32:57.902
Yeah, it was really powerful and to hear a mom talk about, you know, her daughter's turning 18 and we're just talking about, as a parent, any advice or feedback that they have for us and she said that she basically had to sit down with her daughter when she was turning 18 and said basically you're becoming an adult, You're becoming, you know, a woman now, but also we have to she wasn't texting her back, correct, so that was the room, thank you.

00:32:58.974 --> 00:33:02.816
So daughter's not texting her mom back and mom's like hey, you're 18, now Two things.

00:33:02.816 --> 00:33:05.599
One, I'm paying for your bill too.

00:33:05.599 --> 00:33:07.702
This is now an optional.

00:33:07.702 --> 00:33:12.569
Like you're a young adult, this is now an optional relationship that we both have to opt into.

00:33:12.569 --> 00:33:21.798
So now you don't have to have a relationship with me and I don't have to have a relationship with you, so we both have to.

00:33:21.818 --> 00:33:25.762
She said we both have to choose if we want to opt into this relationship and how we want this relationship to be.

00:33:25.762 --> 00:33:27.503
We want to opt into this relationship and how we want this relationship to be.

00:33:27.503 --> 00:33:37.060
And she said so if you don't text me back, if I had a friend or I had somebody else that's not my daughter that I text, or that I called and they didn't text me back or they didn't respond, I would stop calling them.

00:33:37.060 --> 00:33:38.220
I would stop reaching out to them.

00:33:38.220 --> 00:33:41.263
So what makes you any different or exempt from that?

00:33:41.263 --> 00:33:52.838
And I thought that was such an eyeopening perspective because it was taking the title out, because most people would say, like mom, you're not supposed to talk to your kid like that, but the reality is you shouldn't give them almost an ultimatum, correct?

00:33:52.878 --> 00:34:03.961
and it wasn't an ultimatum, it's just let me bring it to your attention that, yes, although my title might be this and you might be, my daughter or my child, know that this is like you're an adult.

00:34:03.961 --> 00:34:07.875
You're a adult and this is up to us on how we move forward.

00:34:07.875 --> 00:34:16.005
And I really appreciated that perspective because I feel like so many times people feel like I'm no, we're, we used to be friends or we're family and it's just.

00:34:16.005 --> 00:34:19.097
I have the right and I have access to you and I can.

00:34:19.677 --> 00:34:26.005
It's supposed to be this way and it's almost like you know, nobody owns anybody.

00:34:26.005 --> 00:34:27.027
It's a.

00:34:27.027 --> 00:34:29.951
It's like we're renegotiating right or we're back at the table.

00:34:37.039 --> 00:34:40.155
We're back discussing if this is a mutually beneficial relationship.

00:34:40.155 --> 00:34:42.577
As soon as you said that, again, that gave me chills.

00:34:42.577 --> 00:34:49.128
I remember when we were hearing it and we're just walking down the street after dinner and we're asking her and we've never heard that before.

00:34:49.128 --> 00:34:54.163
I said, oh, we're absolutely going to take that into consideration when we have our kids.

00:34:54.443 --> 00:34:56.050
Well, also not just when we have our kids.

00:34:56.050 --> 00:34:59.485
I mean, I already had a conversation with one of my mentees today.00:34:59.485 --> 00:35:04.398


Uh, just was about the fact of you know, sometimes I'm reaching out and I'm reaching out to you, I'm sending you things.00:35:04.398 --> 00:35:09.086


When we talk, you're like man, I really appreciate what you sent me, but, man, you didn't text back.00:35:09.086 --> 00:35:19.920


Like I'm looking at the thread, I'm like you know, it's like 10 to 0 where I sent things and there was no response and I just said if you were anybody else, like I wouldn't be still texting you because you're not responding.00:35:19.940 --> 00:35:24.826


So I said you don't have to always comment or say a long paragraph, but just give it a thumbs up or a heart.00:35:24.826 --> 00:35:33.278


And I realized that after that conversation the next message I sent, he gave it.00:35:33.278 --> 00:35:38.518


He loved it, and I was like and, and, and his reaction was also Kurt, I want you to know it's not going in one ear and out the other, like I appreciate you.00:35:38.518 --> 00:35:42.387


So I thought it was so powerful that I'm listening.00:35:42.387 --> 00:35:51.987


So I thought it was so powerful by coming to the table and sharing the expectation, sharing like, hey, this is what I'm looking for and what I expect from you and what we expect from each other.00:35:51.987 --> 00:35:54.179


It's a level setting.00:35:54.221 --> 00:35:54.400


Yes.00:35:54.755 --> 00:35:57.146


And that's the game changer is when the level is set.00:35:57.146 --> 00:35:59.034


And now we've managed the expectations.00:35:59.034 --> 00:36:00.440


Now you know how to move forward.00:36:00.641 --> 00:36:01.563


Correct, correct.00:36:01.563 --> 00:36:08.047


I think the key to that, too, is having that dialogue of what are your expectations of this relationship.00:36:08.047 --> 00:36:09.717


And then here's my expectations.00:36:09.717 --> 00:36:16.942


You know I do expect a text back, or I do expect, you know, even just an acknowledgement, right, of a message that I send you.00:36:16.942 --> 00:36:30.081


Or you know, for some people it can even be like Sunday dinners, right, like my expectation is that, even though you are, you know, living your life and doing those things, sunday dinners is our family time to get back together, right.00:36:30.081 --> 00:36:32.347


So like again having those expectations and level setting.00:36:32.347 --> 00:36:41.695


So I appreciate you saying that, because I would, as soon as you mentioned you know kind of one thing that you wanted to let go, I just thought that was perfect to bring that full circle.00:36:41.695 --> 00:36:47.447


Okay, so how do you envision your ideal self in the coming year?00:36:48.434 --> 00:36:51.400


How I my ideal self really.00:36:51.440 --> 00:36:55.228


I see more balance in a lot of different areas right.00:36:55.394 --> 00:37:14.101


Not, yes, continuing to be aspirational and doing things from a work and a professional side, but then having that balance where it isn't all grind Because I can still be guilty of that of like I'm a grind, I'm going to put the work in, I'm going to keep gonna keep, I'm gonna be the first in, last one out but also finding that balance of as a leader.00:37:14.643 --> 00:37:21.989


I need to also show my team and teams that we need work-life balance right, that we, if I'm always on, everybody else feels like they've got to be on.00:37:21.989 --> 00:37:23.815


So that's, that's one aspect.00:37:23.815 --> 00:37:43.097


And one thing they're having more experiences in travel, where I'm also opening my vision and my landscape to not just what we're doing in the US or in North America, but like on a global scale, is something else that I'm really excited about, which I think comes from the travel and then just continuing on my health journey too, and that's not just physical health but mental health.00:37:43.097 --> 00:37:51.650


I know I'm excited to continue my therapy journey, continue to grow and evolve, to do unlearning, but also continue the lifelong learning that I want to do too.00:37:52.074 --> 00:38:08.936


Yes, and I what I'm hearing is right Just being continuing to work on being well-rounded right from all aspects, not just like I'm so exceptional and dominant in this professional space, but then I'm lacking over here in in my mental health or spiritual, emotional health.00:38:08.936 --> 00:38:12.891


So really that, just that well-rounded, um and balance.00:38:12.891 --> 00:38:14.295


Yay, okay, love that.00:38:14.295 --> 00:38:17.923


What adventures do you want to pursue this year?00:38:17.923 --> 00:38:19.367


So you were just talking about traveling.00:38:19.367 --> 00:38:21.099


We've been to Europe.00:38:21.099 --> 00:38:22.943


You know um a few countries there.00:38:22.943 --> 00:38:25.016


Is there anywhere else that you want to travel?00:38:25.016 --> 00:38:27.641


Or you know what's some some, what are some adventures?00:38:27.641 --> 00:38:29.103


Do you want to skydive, you know?00:38:29.123 --> 00:38:40.494


yeah, no bungee jump, so skydiving is not on my list um, but swim with sharks no, no, I'm good shark week on tv is enough okay um, but continuing to travel.00:38:40.635 --> 00:38:49.045


so I know we've got some international travel from egypt and some other places that are on the list, so traveling is definitely like one that's at the top.00:38:49.045 --> 00:38:55.128


There is just the experiences and being able to see and do things that I've always wanted to.00:38:55.128 --> 00:39:05.387


I know running is also something that I enjoy, so an adventure is going to be, you know, getting back out there 5K, working up 10K and even further, and running in some of these different locations too.00:39:05.387 --> 00:39:06.661


Just got to make sure I know where I'm going.00:39:08.719 --> 00:39:09.795


Yes, that's a fact, I know.00:39:09.795 --> 00:39:14.585


We just talked to a woman that ran a 26-mile marathon.00:39:15.106 --> 00:39:15.507


Serious.00:39:15.686 --> 00:39:21.684


Oh, I said, she's like I, just I love running so much Because people use marathon loosely and people don't realize like that's 26 miles.00:39:21.795 --> 00:39:29.061


That's 26 miles Like there's some people that work from home that haven't driven 26 miles this week let alone run 26 miles.00:39:29.282 --> 00:39:29.643


No sir.00:39:29.663 --> 00:39:30.523


It's a commitment.00:39:30.523 --> 00:39:33.405


No sir, I think she said she lost a couple of toenails too.00:39:33.405 --> 00:39:35.929


Come on, what Losing toenails on the marathon?00:39:35.929 --> 00:39:36.789


That is commitment.00:39:36.909 --> 00:39:42.197


It's commitment, okay, yes, okay, yes, I know for sure.00:39:42.197 --> 00:39:45.784


The running thing is something that you've been talking about quite a bit, so I'm excited.00:39:45.784 --> 00:39:48.628


Any other adventures besides travel?00:39:49.369 --> 00:39:50.958


Yes, actually Other adventures.00:39:50.958 --> 00:39:55.282


You know I'm a big Detroit Lions fan, so we're going to be hitting a few different stadiums.00:39:55.282 --> 00:40:02.900


This year the Lions don't play in Arizona, but going to a game in Detroit and then probably when they play, the Rams.00:40:03.483 --> 00:40:05.588


Okay, Perfect.00:40:05.588 --> 00:40:06.719


So we have three more questions.00:40:06.719 --> 00:40:16.047


Are there any habits or behaviors you want to cultivate this year, so like your?00:40:16.067 --> 00:40:24.228


habits that you already have or behaviors that you yes, I would say one of the behaviors I want to cultivate is continue to expand like, continue to build on my power hour.00:40:24.228 --> 00:40:44.702


So you know, the habit of not jumping on my phone in the morning, journaling devotional, getting a chance to sit in my space and gather my thoughts and then get active, are all things I definitely want to continue to do, and I've created those great habits my Bible plan and using a Bible app but I want to continue to do those as well.00:40:45.657 --> 00:40:48.208


Okay, perfect, Any like behaviors that I want to continue to do those as well.00:40:48.248 --> 00:40:50.900


Okay, perfect, Any like behaviors that I want to continue to do.00:40:50.900 --> 00:40:55.934


Yes, I would say, something I want to just even do more of is being in church on Sunday.00:40:55.934 --> 00:41:03.817


I know we travel quite a bit and a lot of times it's kind of virtual or you know from home, but also you know getting in, and I love that.00:41:03.817 --> 00:41:12.108


When we travel we go to churches in other, like the cathedral in Cologne, germany, the different experiences you know, same thing in Sedona.00:41:12.108 --> 00:41:14.731


So I want to keep that pattern and routine too.00:41:14.871 --> 00:41:24.048


Yeah, which I really enjoy that too, just to be able to see other you know houses of God too, and just seeing what people have is really interesting too.00:41:24.048 --> 00:41:31.164


Okay, are there any habits or behaviors you want to eliminate this year that no longer serve you?00:41:31.865 --> 00:41:34.291


yeah, I want to eliminate any, any negative thoughts.00:41:34.291 --> 00:41:36.199


I want to get rid of all the negative thoughts.00:41:36.199 --> 00:41:39.246


Anything that's doubt, um, I want to eliminate it.00:41:39.246 --> 00:41:41.719


I want to purge those, you know, purge that energy.00:41:41.719 --> 00:41:43.983


So and I already feel like I'm getting.00:41:43.983 --> 00:41:59.251


I get in the habit of like when I do have a negative thought, I say an I am statement where I shift my mindset, but continuing to do that like no negative thoughts, I literally I know it sounds crazy, like how do you always try to think positive but I want to continue to wire myself.00:41:59.271 --> 00:41:59.534


Practice.00:41:59.795 --> 00:42:02.001


Despite the situation, what's going on in the world?00:42:02.001 --> 00:42:03.224


We can be the change.00:42:03.485 --> 00:42:04.635


Yes, Okay.00:42:04.635 --> 00:42:10.208


How do you plan on adding more joy and gratitude into your life?00:42:11.195 --> 00:42:12.018


It's a great question.00:42:12.018 --> 00:42:17.617


I think, um, a part of my joy and gratitude is rooted in faith right and with serving others.00:42:17.617 --> 00:42:19.802


So, um, being able to give back.00:42:19.802 --> 00:42:51.976


I think the more that I've seen and something I want to cultivate and continue to do is giving back, because that's a great way that I show that I'm grateful is paying it forward, pouring into the next generation or to someone else, and then that also brings you joy, like being able to see not just me be successful, but the people that I'm able to help or people that we help them being successful, because that it shows you something different when, almost, like, you know that, okay, I can do it, but can you teach and help somebody else reach their dreams and reach their fullest potential?00:42:51.996 --> 00:42:54.161


so and be a leader, and be a leader right.00:42:54.302 --> 00:43:06.018


So serving leadership and and I think that not only helps promote the gratitude, but also it brings me joy too- yes, I think also the running piece brings you joy as well oh yeah, activity without a doubt.00:43:06.038 --> 00:43:09.422


Yeah, getting the adventures are going to bring you joy.00:43:09.422 --> 00:43:14.269


Um, gratitude is just every year that we life.00:43:14.269 --> 00:43:15.679


I didn't, you know, see a birthday.00:43:15.740 --> 00:43:17.949


All jokes aside, I never visualized being like.00:43:17.949 --> 00:43:24.085


I never saw myself living at 35 years old like I saw myself, like oh, this is what I want when I'm older.00:43:24.085 --> 00:43:25.998


But there's no age, there was no like.00:43:25.998 --> 00:43:27.965


You're 35 and what does life look like?00:43:27.965 --> 00:43:33.378


So this all feels like just a blessing to be here and I don't take it for granted.00:43:34.041 --> 00:43:34.802


Yes, Okay.00:43:34.802 --> 00:43:44.719


Last question how does it feel to be a Mother's Day baby or born around Mother's Day, sometimes sharing a birthday with Mother's Day?00:43:44.719 --> 00:43:45.121


How does that feel?00:43:45.121 --> 00:43:46.510


I feel like it's a sometimes sharing a birthday with Mother's Day.00:43:46.510 --> 00:43:47.074


How does that feel?00:43:48.318 --> 00:43:49.242


I feel like it's a gift.00:43:49.242 --> 00:43:56.601


I feel like I definitely was a Mother's Day gift for sure, so that would be one Anytime you're sharing a birthday with a holiday.00:43:56.601 --> 00:44:03.264


Fortunately it doesn't fall on Mother's Day this year, so moms can have her day and then I can also celebrate.00:44:03.264 --> 00:44:04.420


Tour season is all month.00:44:04.420 --> 00:44:06.918


Oh my gosh, it is tour season.00:44:06.938 --> 00:44:08.427


So you know it is tour season, so it's a blessing.00:44:08.809 --> 00:44:16.708


You know, it's exciting and to think about just how grateful I am obviously to still have my mom and all that too is a blessing.00:44:17.289 --> 00:44:23.565


Yes, anything else that you want to share with the audience about your birthday, may 13th?00:44:23.764 --> 00:44:25.728


More life, more life.00:44:25.728 --> 00:44:31.077


I'm grateful, it's a blessing and I'm glad I could share more about my birthday with everybody.00:44:31.498 --> 00:44:34.463


Yes, happy birthday, my love.00:44:34.463 --> 00:44:37.110


I'm so excited for you 35.00:44:37.110 --> 00:44:38.257


It's a big deal.00:44:38.257 --> 00:44:40.061


We're going to do it in style.00:44:40.061 --> 00:44:41.344


I can't wait for it.00:44:41.724 --> 00:44:42.347


Thank you.00:44:42.367 --> 00:44:46.307


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